I like to go to the gay clubs in KL, like Blue Boy in Bukit Bintang (that’s a really old, run-down place, but it has survived the best and worst of times, unlike many other flash-in-the-pan gay clubs in KL).
So keeping up appearances is still a big deal in Malaysia I would think, that is if you want to thrive in some sort of way. But the advent of social media and smartphone apps like Grindr, Wechat, and others enables gay men to socialise in a more efficient but still private manner.
In the late 90s to mid-2000s, Malaysian netizens loved using online chat software like MIRC or the relay chat things.
It is still a very conservative community, despite of what people say.
So to be gay and Muslim and a Malay requires a lot of tact. For me in my life, I am open to friends and colleagues, but I keep up appearances when I meet other people, as interviewing people is part of my job scope.
One of my friend says there are a few seemingly gay-friendly commercial spots in KL.