Those with vaginismus are better off waiting to jump into sex, which might seem inhibiting at first glance.
You being as supportive as possible will only help.
If he wants nothing to do with any of this, then this guy is not ready for a girlfriend.
When it comes to finally having sex, Greene recommends taking things very, slow at first -- which, come to think of it, can be pretty arousing."Even if it feels good just a little bit, that's better than not feeling good at all. That might not mean that you and your partner have penetrative intercourse right away.
It might mean that you both take creative steps in the bedroom to ensure one another's pleasure.
After all, by this point in your relationship, you can be certain that you and your partner are being uniquely yourselves.